Sometimes someone not loving you has nothing to do with you.

Have you noticed the way they treat themselves? Now pay close attention to the way they treat you. Their criticism, ice-cold demeanor, selfishness, lack of acknowledgement of wrongdoing, lack of heartfelt apology, lack of reciprocity.

If we allow truth to be witnessed, people will tell us in a number of ways that they are unable to love us in the way we want to be loved.
Listen carefully. Do not reject the truth that’s nestled between their unloving-ness. Do not replace their truth with the image you’ve created of them.
Neither hide the truth behind the fantasy which is unattainable.

Listen, name your pain, accept the truth, and go heal yourself.